Alleviating Sibling Rivalry – Reducing the Older Sibling’s Resentment
When a new baby comes along and requires a lot of your time and attention, it is important to reassure your older child that he is still loved and cherished. And it is necessary to do so in a language he understands. Verbal platitudes will not do much, but giving him a half-hour or so of undivided attention every day will do the trick. The following are some suggestions for appropriate ways to spend that time:
- A story book session in his bedroom (not reading him a story while rocking the baby on your lap).
- Watching a special television program together.
- A game of catch in the backyard.
- A walk around the block or to a local park.
- A cooking session wherein the child helps prepare part of the evening meal.
- A drive to the library, grocery store, or nowhere in particular.
- A drama session involving costumes and pretend play.
- A simple construction project such as putting together a secret clubhouse in the basement or backyard.
- Building and furnishing a doll house.
- A sing along session with the piano, a cd player, or unaccompanied.
- An arts and crafts session with clay, crayons, or fingerpaints.
- A story-telling session featuring tales about the family history.
- Working on puzzles together.
- Participating in a parent-child class at Romp n’ Roll!