A Potentially Perplexing Problem for Parents – Stay or Go?

A Potentially Perplexing Problem for Parents – Stay or Go?

One of the great things about Romp n’ Roll is its penchant for providing options.  Every child has his own special temperament and his own unique collection of interests.  Consequently, there is a wide variety of classes from which to choose; and each class, while involving a certain amount of structure and group activities, also provides ample opportunities for each individual child to do whatever specific things he is most inclined to do and is most comfortable doing.

And Romp n’ Roll extends the same courtesy to parents.  While classes for younger children require parental participation for safety purposes, once their child has reached an appropriate level of development, parents can opt to enroll him in classes that welcome them to participate or permit them to simply drop off their child and return to pick him up at a later time.

Which is preferable?  There is no set answer to that question.  First, it depends on the child.  Some kids may be uncomfortable unless their parents remain.  Keep in mind that as a society, we have been placing young children in large group situations only for the past 50 years or so.  If some have a little difficulty adjusting to those situations on their own, that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with them.  On the other hand, there are kids who are so quickly intrigued and excited by peers and other adults that they tend to virtually ignore their parents even when the parents are present.

Next, it depends on the parent.  Some parents may view enrolling their child in a Romp n’ Roll class as a chance to get some important things done more efficiently or to simply have some much-needed time for themselves.  Others may feel that given their obligations and schedules, it is a relatively rare opportunity to spend some special quality time with their child.  Both perspectives are perfectly appropriate; so once again, neither choice is either inherently right or inherently wrong.

Consequently, the decision to stay or go is one that parents should make strictly according to what they believe will be most pleasant and productive for both their child and themselves.  Furthermore, there is no pressure to make a definite decision immediately.  It is quite all right to explore and experiment with the options.

And by the way, don’t worry how your child will feel if he sees that the parents of the other children have chosen the other option.  Fortunately, during the preschool years, kids are extraordinarily egocentric.  While what is going on with their peers affects their psychology somewhat during the elementary school years and strongly during adolescence, at this point in development, it really is of little concern as they are first and foremost focused on themselves.