Three Simple New Year’s Resolutions for Mom and Dad
Once again, it is time to think about New Year’s resolutions. While your list may contain the standard items that appear annually because they typically fall by the wayside before February, if you are a mother or father there are three things I strongly urge you to include and to keep.
1. Make Time for You. It is natural and laudable for parents to be willing to “sacrifice” in
order to ensure their children’s well-being. But taking it to the point where you are “neglecting” yourself makes no sense. You can’t be there for your child if you allow yourself to become physically and psychologically debilitated. So set aside at least a couple of hours every week to take a class, go to the gym, enjoy a spa treatment, or whatever. (And enrolling your child in a Romp n’ Roll drop-off program provides you with an excellent opportunity to do so.)
2. Make Time for Each Other. Once a couple becomes Mother and Father it is unfortunate that they sometimes forget they are still Husband and Wife. And while loving and caring for your children is obviously a good thing to do, it is critical to remember that doing so includes providing them with an example of what an enjoyable and enduring marriage is all about – and that means loving and caring for your spouse as well. So plan a regular “date night” when you can place the kids in the care of someone else and focus exclusively on each other for a few hours.
3. Be Willing to Forgive Yourself. No one is a perfect parent. Every mother and father will make mistakes from time to time. However, while it is easy to recognize this mentally, it can be extraordinarily difficult to accept this emotionally. For some reason, we feel compelled to wallow in self-condemnation and guilt whenever we fail our little ones in some way. But for the sake of your own sanity, it is important to recognize how inappropriate and unproductive this is. After all, if the Almighty intended us to be perfect parents, he would have endowed all of us with the wisdom of Solomon, the strength of Samson, and the patience of Job.