Go Straight to Your Second Child
I’ll never forget visiting my sister when her middle child, Josh, was still a baby. We dropped by a neighbor’s house, and as we were getting ready to leave, my sister picked up Josh and his pacifier fell out of his mouth. The neighbor picked it up and said, “Do you want me to wash this for you?”
My sister grabbed the pacifier, unceremoniously stuck it back in Josh’s mouth, and replied, “Second child.”
It is very natural but extremely unfortunate that our first child engenders a powerful sense of over-protectiveness that borders on paranoia. Every little mishap is viewed as a major catastrophe, and we berate ourselves unmercifully for failing to take the proper precautions. This insistence that the world be perfectly safe for our little one not only makes our first-born inappropriately nervous, it is really not good for our psychological well-being.
That’s another reason why I encourage first-time parents to bring their babies to a Romp n’ Roll class. The opportunity to watch more experienced mothers and fathers react to minor slips and tumbles calmly and casually, and to see their babies not only survive but thrive as they continue on with undiminished excitement and enthusiasm, allows them to achieve the considerably healthier relaxed attitude that comes with the second child a lot faster.
Michael K. Meyerhoff, Ed.D. (a.k.a. “Dr. Mike”) is a member of the management team at Romp n’ Roll. After receiving his bachelor’s degree in psychology from Columbia University, he earned his master’s and doctorate degrees in human development from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, where he also held a position as a researcher with the Harvard Preschool Project. He may be contacted via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.