Confession is Good for the Soul
I have a confession to make. Many years ago, when my triplet grandchildren were about eight months old, the two boys started crawling. The girl would be down on all fours rocking back and forth but not moving. After observing this for a couple of weeks, I, the world-renowned child development expert who is always telling parents to be patient as children will acquire their physical skills strictly according to their own unique rate and pattern of development, couldn’t stand it any more.
One day, while my grandsons were scooting all over the house and my granddaughter continued to just rock back and forth, I decided I would “help” her. I put my hand on her bottom and gave her a gentle push to get her going. Of course, instead of moving forward, she went straight down, smacking her head on the floor. Later, when her parents noticed the small bruise above her right eye and ask what happened, I feigned complete surprise and said, “I don’t know…I wasn’t in the room at the time.”
It feels good to get that off of my chest. The fact is that within a few days, the bruise had faded, my granddaughter was crawling after her brothers, and everyone had forgotten about the incident. Except me. I’ve been beating myself up about it ever since. However, now that I’ve come clean, I think I can finally start forgiving myself.
Nobody is a perfect parent (or grandparent). We all make mistakes. So, a word of advice. If you are berating yourself for some terrible faux pas you made as a parent, do yourself a favor. Confess your sin to your fellow mothers and fathers at Romp n’ Roll. I guarantee you’ll feel better, partially because they won’t condemn you, but mainly because they probably will share a story about their own mistakes.
Michael K. Meyerhoff, Ed.D. (a.k.a. “Dr. Mike”) is a member of the management team at Romp n’ Roll. After receiving his bachelor’s degree in psychology from Columbia University, he earned his master’s and doctorate degrees in human development from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, where he also held a position as a researcher with the Harvard Preschool Project. He may be contacted via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.