Differences Between Moms and Dads

Differences Between Moms and Dads

I am constantly reminding my students that they are living at an amazing time in the entire socio-cultural history of the world. Things that have been in place for thousands of years are changing – often rapidly and dramatically. And one thing that fascinates me is the difference between mothers and fathers when it comes to interacting with their young children.

Over the course of several decades during the last century, many studies were done on this topic. And the results were overwhelmingly and consistently clear. Mothers were more verbal and controlling whereas fathers were more physical and playful.

Well, as the last century came to a close, we began to see what became known as the “Mr. Mom” phenomenon. There were a lot of couples in which when the children came along, the mother was making more money and had better benefits. So she kept working and the father stayed home to take care of the kids. We finally had enough of such families that we could do studies of them. And lo and behold, in those families, the fathers were more verbal and controlling whereas the mothers were more physical and playful.

So something that everyone had always assumed was a male-female thing turned out to be merely a case of who had to keep the kids on schedule and get things done and who got to waltz in at six o’clock and say, “I’m home! Let’s have some fun!”

If you are the parent who is in the former position, this is another reason to enroll your child in Romp n’ Roll. After all, you deserve the opportunity to be physical and playful on a regular basis too.

Michael K. Meyerhoff, Ed.D. (a.k.a. “Dr. Mike”) is a member of the management team at Romp n’ Roll. After receiving his bachelor’s degree in psychology from Columbia University, he earned his master’s and doctorate degrees in human development from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, where he also held a position as a researcher with the Harvard Preschool Project. He may be contacted via e-mail at drmike@romproll.com.